By Dr. Tan Kheng Khoo
"To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub;
for in the sleep of death what dreams may come.
When we have shuffled off this mortal coil,
must give us pause."
William Shakespeare (Hamlet)
All of us dream. When someone says he or she does not dream, it is due the fact
that he or she does not remember the dream. On the average an individual sleeps
about 8 hours per 24 hours, i.e. he sleeps away one-third of his life. If he
were 60 years of age, he would have slept for 20 years of his life. If he were
90 years old, he would have slept for 30 years in that life. Every night we
dream about 2 hours in our 8-hour stretch of sleep, but we can only remember
snatches of our dreams. On the whole, in one life time one sleeps about 5 to 6
years of that life.
Slow Wave Sleep (SWS) and Rapid Eye Movement (REM)
Sleep may be divided into two types: SWS and REM. The former (SWS) is named thus
because the brain waves during this stage are large and slow. SWS is divided
into 4 stages. The EEG (Electro-encephalogram) machine measures brain waves. At
the start of sleep, stage one is registered, which is characterised by slow
eye-rolling movements, a loss of alpha brain waves, and a lessening of muscle
tone. Stage 2 is defined as comprising of a low voltage EEG, with mixed slow
frequencies. A young healthy adult would have reached Stage 2 within 20 minutes
of going to sleep. From now onwards, the sleep is deepened with larger and
persistent slow waves dominating the EEG record. As far as deep SWS is
concerned, the greater the amplitude and the slower the frequency, the deeper
the sleep. Stages 3 and 4 are more synchronised and of higher voltages. Stage 3
is defined as having 20% to 50% slow waves of a certain amplitude, and stage 4
has over 50%. It is conventional to regard all the 4 stages as being slow wave
sleep in contrast to REM sleep.
At the beginning, most normal people start with SWS until at least 45 minutes
later when REM sleep begins. After this, there is an alternation between REM and
SWS sleep, with REM arising out of SWS every 90 minutes. REM sleep is
characterised by jerky eye movements (noticed beneath the eyelids) and total
paralysis of all muscles except those of the chest for automatic breathing. The
first sign is the loss of tone of the neck and throat muscles. It is found that
during this period dreaming occurs. In humans, the small muscles of the face and
hands twitch sporadically, as in animals. The total body paralysis guarantees
that the individual does not act out the dreams.
The first REM sleep of the night lasts only a few minutes. Then as sleep
continues its duration increases at each subsequent REM, until after several
hours of sleep, REM sleep may last for 30 to 45 minutes. At the same time, SWS
gets less and less as the night wears out. Therefore, there is some truth that
most dreaming occurs in the second half the night. In REM sleep, there is penile
erection in the males, and females have erect nipples, clitoral enlargement and
lubricated genitals. The heart and respiratory rates become faster and irregular
and the blood pressure also becomes irregular. Originally, it was thought that
dreams or REM sleep was necessary for health, but now we know that this is not
true. Preventing REM sleep with drugs has no bad effects on the individual. Half
of the sleep in newborn babies consists of REM sleep, which may mean that this
state is important in the development of babies. As animals also exhibit REM
sleep, it is quite safe to assume that animals do dream as well. Dreams in REM
sleep are more dramatic and exciting, whilst those in non-REM (SWS) sleep are
calmer and less stimulating.
There is no muscular paralysis in SWS, and breathing is slow and abdominal.
Sleep walking, sleep-talking, bed-wetting and teeth grinding are all performed
Sometimes when one wakes up from a REM sleep one finds that one is still totally
paralysed. All forms of movements with the large muscles are not possible. The
best way to stimulate the muscles to come to life again is to move the small
muscles of the face e.g. make a grimace. In this way the movement of the small
muscles will lead to the recovery of the large muscles.
Nightmares are normally emotional in flavour and the subject matter is of
secondary importance. The emotions are fear, guilt and horror in varying
proportions and the dream ends in the subject waking up. About one in 20 people
suffer from nightmares once a week. That means several millions of people in the
world have nightmares every night. The worst sufferers may have one episode per
night, sometimes more. To some the disorder is so extreme that they dare not go
to sleep at night and few even tended to be suicidal. Nightmares maybe the cause
of some fatalities during sleep. Some of them wake up breathing rapidly with an
increased pulse rate and sweating profusely. Some of them may be yelling
themselves awake. Therefore someone with an underlying heart disorder could
easily die in this nightmare.
There are two types of nightmares. The first variety consists of only 4%, and is
found in SWS. These mostly occur within the first one and a half-hour of sleep.
There are no preceding physiological signs. The individual wakes up screaming
with panic and terror. Then the heart and respiratory rates are seen to rise
right away after that. Most of these people do not remember their nightmares the
next morning. Some experts believe that this type of nightmare is due to a
disturbance of the arousal system in the brain. Sometimes a noise can
precipitate an episode. Witnessing some violence in their homes during childhood
has traumatised some of these sufferers, and thus remains the cause of the
nightmares. These SWS nightmares are sometimes called ‘night terrors’ and
are common in children. They are quite often not accompanied by visual images or
The other type of nightmares is really anxiety dreams and they occur during REM
sleep. They are by far the commonest. These are inevitably preceded by
physiological signs e.g. increased respiratory and heart rates and rapid eye
movement. Most of them cannot move due to muscle paralysis, and they are unable
to shout out. Some scientists believe that this is the real cause of those who
profess to be pressed by spirits in a haunted room. These REM nightmares are
horrifying and the images in the stories are seen in gruesome details, quite
often in colour. Some of these are recurrent.
Dr. Keith Hearne made a survey of 39 nightmare sufferers. Most of them were
women, but this female bias may be due to the fact that males generally do not
want to relate their nightmares to others. The age of onset is usually the first
10 years of life. Six out of 10 said that trauma had preceded the onset. Nine
out of 10 in this group reported that the nightmares recur some or all the time.
It is interesting in the fact that REM nightmares happen during the first half
of the night, when REM sleep is more prevalent during the second half of the
There is evidence that nightmares occur more frequently in anxious people, and
the pre-sleep level of anxiety is an important baseline. In sufferers of
recurrent nightmares, the anticipation of another nightmare would lower the
threshold even more. Conversely, any remedy to calm the individual before sleep
either by medication or meditation would lesson the likelihood of another
nightmare recurring. The 38 nightmare themes in the above survey are classified
|1. Witnessing horror and violence
|2. Experiencing attack or danger
|3. Flight from someone or something
|4. Sinister presence
|5. Being late and frustrated in travel
|7. Hallucinating creatures
Themes 4,6,7,and 8 are the reasons why dream workers do not believe these
episodes are due to spirits or ghosts pressing upon the sufferer.
From the above themes, it can be seen that most of them are either receiving or
witnessing violence. As it turns out the contents of the dream are not as vital
as the emotional makeup of the sufferers. Analysing their characters, they are
principally (a) affected by feelings, (b) apprehensive, (c) tense, (d)
undisciplined, and (e) self-sufficient. These anxious people have nightmares
because their threshold is low. And any subject in their dreams could trigger a
nightmare, which is enacted to fit the tense, apprehensive and emotional
character of the sufferers. Therefore one can tell oneself daily prior to sleep
‘to remain calm and relax’ as it is ‘only a dream’. These are also
prescribed as imagination exercises daily while one is awake. Another method is
to get oneself awaken up just before each nightmare arises by some one else or
by a ‘dream machine’, which sets out an alarm at a certain respiratory rate.
All nightmares are there to remind us of some urgent business to be resolved.
Therefore, instead of waking up in the nightmare, stand steadfast and find out
who or what really is the terror. Then ask the creature or the monster what he
wants. Normally when confronted this way, the creature changes to be a much
nicer personality, and the message will be delivered in a direct or symbolic
way, like ‘give up drinking or smoking’ or ‘you are gambling your fortune
away in the stock market’.
A case of lucid dreaming mentioned in Jeremy Taylor’s book, ‘Where People
Fly And Water Runs Uphill’ is very illustrative:
"A man was fleeing from a fiery dragon in a scorched and smoldering
landscape. While running, he suddenly realised that he was dreaming (i.e. lucid
dreaming). So he turned around to face the dragon and demanded the reason why
the dragon was chasing him all over the place. The dragon replied " I am
your smoking addiction". At the moment of this realisation the
fire-breathing dragon began to change into a charming, friendly, family dog.
Thereupon, he also noticed that the dragon was covered by a nasty, sticky brown
slime, and noxious smoke was oozing out from every orifice including underneath
the scales. He was revolted by this repulsive odour coming from the dragon. He
then said: "Get away from me! I no longer want you in my life". At
awakening, the dreamer could give up smoking straightaway without the slightest
difficulty. He never smoked since."
The Nature and Characteristics of Dreaming
What is the actual duration of a REM dream?
It is fairly prevalent to believe that dreams represent a time warp, in that it
is fleetingly short at the end of each period of sleep. However, in the dream
laboratory it was found that the period of dreaming corresponds very well with
the period of the REM. Waking up the subjects at various intervals and asking
them to describe their dreams confirms this. The researchers found that the
longer the dream the more words are used to describe the dream. The number of
words is proportionate to the length of the dream. Also, a spray of cold water
is used at varying intervals on the subjects who are woken up at varying
intervals of the dream. Here again, the subjects would dream of water in their
dreams, which corresponds to the timing of the spray. However, there are experts
who still believe that the duration of the dream is shorter than the story that
Does Everyone Dream?
There are people who say that they definitely do not dream at night. However,
when they are studied in the dream laboratory, these individuals do dream, but
they forget them very easily. When woken up during REM periods, they confess
that they do dream. When woken up after the REM period, they remember much less
of their dreams than normal dreamers. In the morning when they finally wake up
for good, they do not remember any dreams at all!
Forgetting of Dreams
Unless we are woken up during REM sleep and asked to specifically remember our
dreams, we normally tend to forget our dreams, especially the earlier REM
dreams. Those that spontaneously remember dreams in the mornings only remember
the most recent ones. So every night most of the earlier REM and the non-REM
dreams are forgotten in the morning. Why is this so? This is because dreams are
not stored in the brain like normal wakeful events. This is the crux of the
matter. In order to retain dream events, at awakening, one must not move or look
at the clock or do something to shake off the dream. The same position is held
with eyes shut and one must re-enter the dream scene in a systematic method.
Dreams are normally illogical, chaotic and unmemorable, and therefore not
startling enough to be retained. A frightening nightmare is a different story
altogether, because we are woken up by the nightmare at that moment. Even when
woken up during a REM dream, some time must be allowed for that dream to be
stored in the brain. Otherwise it is very quickly forgotten.
The Colour of Our Dreams
When questioned about colour in their dreams during the day, about half would
answer that they dream in colour. When awaken up during a REM dream, the
percentage goes up to 70%. On further questioning, another 13% vaguely remember
colour in their dreams. The theme of a dream is always the predominant feature
and the colour element is glossed over. Therefore, we generally dream in colour,
but this aspect of the dream is forgotten.
Other Features of REM Dreams:
1. The movements of the eye are not scanning the images of the dream. They are
merely automatic movements, and we do not dream throughout the period of REM.
2. Deprivation of sleep per se and not prevention of dreaming will produce some
psychological distress. Dreaming, however, may have a function of resolving
3. We do dream during SWS (i.e. non-REM), but the incidence is much less.
Primary process thinking and illogical stories are also carried out throughout
the night’s sleep.
4. External stimuli (like cold due to falling of blankets or water sprayed) and
internal stimuli (like hunger and thirst) do get incorporated into the themes of
dreams. When one is cold in actual fact, the individual dreams of being in the
arctic. When one is hungry, the dream will be about eating a wondrous feast.
When water is sprayed on them, they dream of rain.
Dream Recall (How to keep a Dream Journal)
In order to work on your dreams, you must learn and practice how to recall,
capture and write them down. Although we dream about 4 to 5 times per night, it
is usually the last dream that we remember. The following steps are suggestions
for you to take:
1. Keep a notebook or a small tape recorder beside your bed. It is better to
have a notebook, because you still need to transcribe your tape recordings to
the notebook at a later date.
2. Before you sleep, put down the date and one or two lines of the eventful
incidents of the day.
3. In your mind, have the intention of remembering your dreams for the night,
and instruct this intention to yourself either aloud or in silence.
4. Do not use an alarm if you can. If you have to use one, use a buzzer rather
than a radio. Do not wake up fully. Lie still in that twilight zone with the
eyes shut. Stay in the same sleeping position and try and remember as many
details as you can of that last dream. Take your time, and do not think of
anything else like office or shopping. After the first dream, try to remember
the ones before that.
5. Try and write down your dreams while still in bed. If you do not remember any
dream, identify your mood, and merely jot down your moods. Use a penlight if it
6. Give a heading to your dream. Try and capture as many details as you can,
including names, places, periods and phrases. Always write down any quotations,
phrases or poems first.
7. Do not censor or interpret your dreams. Be as outspoken and as outrageous as
the dream. Do not worry how bizarre or ridiculous is the dream. Put down all the
mundane or humdrum details down. Colour of the dresses and houses and the state
of disrepair of the homes are all noted meticulously.
8. Feelings and physical sensations. Pay attention to your feelings and body
sensations. Fit the feelings to the images, and enquire as to what the physical
sensations are in relation to the story line.
9. If you cannot recollect a dream, just stay put in bed for awhile. Slowly move
from one position to another and a strand or fiber of the dream may arise, and
from there you can recollect your dream.
10. Even if there is no dream, write down your thoughts, sensations, and
physical feelings, and in this process something may turn up. Certain periods of
the month may be conducive to dreaming and certain hormonal levels (e.g.
menstruation) may be inhibitory to dreaming. Julius Nelson found that his rise
and fall of his dream recall varied with the lunar month. Similarly, women
recall much less during the menstrual period than in the mid-cycle.
11. Read your dream journal periodically, or share some of the dreams with
either a partner or a group. The journal must be frequently made use of.
12. You do not have to register a dream every day. If you can write down 2 to 3
dreams per week you are doing fine. However if you are serious about recording
your dreams, a good dreamer should be able to record 600 to 900 dreams per year.
Additional points to remember when keeping a dream journal:
1. Find a notebook that allows of some comments to be added on one side of the
2. Keep your journal in a safe place and well guarded, so that nobody is allowed
to read it.
3. Index your dream theme.
4. Note recurring theme and locality. Lateness, trains, being pursued etc.
5. Are your dreams precognitive? Tie up any relationship of the dream to
6. Does your dream overlap? Does any other person share the same dreamscape as
7. Draw as many diagrams and pictures as possible in your journal.
8. Re-entry into the dream. If for some reason one wants to clear up some
points, like the location of the dream, or to clarify some teachings, one could
go back to the dream after being wide awake for some time. Lie down on the bed
as in falling asleep, then pick up a scene of the dream and let your
consciousness flow back into that dreamscape. Once you are back in the dream,
you are able to concentrate on the details that you have missed out in the first
instance. The location, the message, or the exact words that have been used can
all be retraced in detail. If possible, a Shamanic drum may be used to re-enter
your dream. Sometimes, one can change the ending of a dream with a re-entry.
Rarely, one maybe able to make amends with our adversaries, if they turn up in
our dreams. Forgive and ask for forgiveness.
In chapter one of Jeremy Taylor’s excellent book called "Where People Fly
and Water Runs Uphill" he enumerates and discusses ten basic assumptions in
dreams. We will now run through eight of these assumptions.
1. All dreams come in the service of health and wholeness. This means that there
is no such thing as a bad dream. Even nightmares are there to rudely awaken you
for you to pay attention to a truth that you have been ignoring. Any dream that
can be remembered is of value.
2. No dream comes to tell you what you already know. Even if you know the fact,
the dream is there to remind you to move further along that path for growth and
development. Sometimes you may know a truth, but the dream comes up to remind
you to act on it.
3. Only the dreamer can say for certainty what meanings the dreams may hold. All
the experts in the world may suggest meanings in your dreams, but the dreamer is
the only one that can be right all the time, if he or she takes the time and
care to interpret the dreams.
4. The dreamer’s ‘aha’ of recognition is a function of previously
unconscious memory and is the only reliable touchstone of dream work. The
dreamer himself is the only one that can remember consciously the insight of the
levels of meanings, which are there unconsciously from the beginning. All dreams
have multiple meanings and layers of significance. There is no such thing as a
dream has only one meaning. The dream’s multiplicity of truths about one’s
life can be dissected out if required. Every interpretation of a dream is
incomplete on its own.
5. All dreams speak a universal language of metaphor and symbol at the
archetypal level. This universal language of dream cuts across all racial,
sexual, intellectual and social barriers. Everyone speaks the same dream
6. All dreams reflect inborn creativity and ability to face and solve life’s
problems. Dreams are workshops of evolution. Our dreams are our aspirations of
our future. Our hypocrisy and our lies about ourselves are all mirrored in our
dreams, and it is from this point of facing the truth that we can start our new
7. All dreams reflect society as a whole, as well as the dreamer’s
relationship to it.
8. Working with dreams in voluntary groups builds community, intimacy, support
The above 8 points are truly pearls of wisdom from a dream expert who has been
called ‘the most experienced and insightful explorer of the dream world today’.
Much more time can be spent in analysing and discussing these points, but space
does not allow it. However, another dream from Jeremy’s Taylor book is most
illustrative of points (1), (3), (4), and (5). I quote the dream of a lady in an
‘empty nest syndrome’ in toto:
"I am alone in the kitchen. I hear the sounds of a party going on down in
my basement. I think to myself, ‘There haven’t any impromptu parties in my
basement since my kids lived at home. What’s going on down there!’ I go down
to the basement and see all these people standing around talking and drinking,
but now I can’t hear anything----it’s as though I have gone deaf! I move
around and it is as though I have turned into a ghost----no one seems to be able
see or hear me. I realize that I am carrying my handbag now. I didn’t have it
with me before, but now I have it. And I know that there is a piece of rotting
meat inside the bag, and I am afraid to open it up for fear the smell will
offend everyone. So I wander around in the basement feeling more and more
anxious and frustrated and hopeless until I finally wake up in a sweat."
The dream group that she attends came to the interpretation that the ‘rotting
meat’ is a cancer, the basement suggests the lower abdomen and the handbag
localising it to the uterus. The prognosis is ominous because ‘she is turned
into a ghost’. Although physically she felt fine, she went and did a Pap
smear, which turned out to be normal. Her anxiety was not relieved and she got a
specialist to do a sonogram (ultrasound) and this test found a thickening of the
lining of the uterus, which on biopsy was diagnosed to be an aggressive cancer.
Urgent surgery was performed and her condition was cured. She was due to go to
Europe for a holiday. If she had not had the operation immediately, it would
have been too late after the European holiday.
Hervey de Saint-Denys coined the phrase " lucid dream" in 1865 when he
found that he was able to ‘dream on, knowing he was dreaming’. Lucid
dreaming is when you are aware that you are dreaming while dreaming. Whilst
normal dreaming is when you realise you have been dreaming only after you wake
up. In lucid dreaming, you are watching yourself lying in bed and dreaming. You
also know what you are dreaming. The awareness of you lying there dreaming and
about yourself in the dream may shift back and forth. You may at some stage go
solely into your dream and lose the lucidity of knowing yourself dreaming.
Robert Moss prefers the name ‘Conscious Dreaming’, because the name Lucid
Dreaming has been associated with one’s ability to control dreams. Nobody can
control dreams, but one may influence dreams when in Lucid Dreaming. Moss also
does not like the methods suggested to induce Lucid Dreaming, like looking at
your hands during a dream, and keep reminding oneself that tonight one is going
to be lucid. These methods according to him are not watertight.
The best way to be lucid in dreaming is to realise at that moment that we are
flying or changing shapes or squeezing ourselves into keyholes. When these
fantastic scenes are realised, then one can be spontaneously aware that we are
dreaming. Sometimes a noise may provoke us into lucidity: a telephone ringing, a
doorbell or a voice. Once you learn about lucid dreaming and have a desire to
experience it, you may struggle to be conscious while dreaming. One can acquire
the skill to lucid dreaming. Whilst dreaming, one must hold on to the awareness
of dreaming. This awareness must be held tenaciously, or else you return back to
uncontrolled ordinary dreaming. Therefore, do not relax. There is much joy in
maintaining this lucidity. A pre-lucid state is one that you suspect that you
are dreaming. Then you test this state to find out whether you are dreaming or
not. Once the test confirms that you are dreaming, you can push it into lucid
dreaming. It takes time to induce lucid dreaming. It needs practice. Sometimes
in a nightmare, you realize that you are only dreaming and that usually wakes
you up. However if you realize that ‘as it is only a dream, it cannot really
hurt you’, you may convert the nightmare into a lucid dream. When you become
lucid during a nightmare, do not awaken, as there is no terror anymore. Continue
the nightmare as a changed lucid dream.
Another method is to recognise the dreamlike quality of your dream, and this
will make it lucid. There should not be any emotional stress in this
recognition. Also try to see any incongruity in your dream. This may trigger
What is the nature of lucid dreaming? It is much more realistic than ordinary
dreams. Animals and objects rarely speak as in ordinary dreams. Your body rarely
changes form in lucid dreaming. Although lucid dreams are exceptionally real,
miracles do happen, e.g. flying, changing environment and travelling to distant
places at an instant. Perceptions are vivid. The colours are very lifelike. All
the other sensations like sounds, tastes, odours, etc are very real. The
physical feel, the psychological attitudes and perceptions are all like waking
life. The thought processes are not as sharp as in waking life, but sharper than
ordinary dreams. When awake, the memory of a lucid dream is very clear. It is
much more easily recalled than an ordinary dream, as it has generated much
excitement. The whole range of emotions is present in lucid dreaming, but the
dreamer usually remains calm in a lucid dream. Do not allow excitement to wake
you up in a lucid dream.
Two phenomena are usually associated with lucid dreaming. These are (1) false
awakening and (2) flying. A false awakening is a state in which the dreamer is
still dreaming, but he thinks he is awake. This state may follow a lucid dream
or a non-lucid dream. When he finally wakes up he would realize that it was a
dream after all.
Flying dreams quite often precede lucid dreams, and lucid dreamers have many
more flying dreams than ordinary dreamers do. Nearly 40% of students in Kentucky
and Tokyo experience flying in their normal dreams. Psychiatric patients have a
lower percentage of flying on their dreams. Perhaps, they do not want to be
thought that they are crazy. Usually flying dreams are a prelude to lucid
dreaming. One can also learn to fly in one’s dreams, and after the first
successful attempt, flying becomes easier the next time around. Gliding a few
inches above ground is another distinct possibility and this is considered
flying. One advice to dreamers is to talk about flying and lucid dreams intently
for a few days. Concentrating your thoughts on these subjects may bring about
flying and lucid dreaming very soon. With this method unpleasant dreams may be
changed to pleasant ones.
Lucid dreams normally occur between 5:00 A.M. to 8:00 A.M. after a good stretch
of restful sleep. Some observe that their flying dreams usually are the last
dreams of the night. That means flying and lucid dreaming tend to coincide
during this period of late morning sleep.
Meditation and lucid dreaming: The meditator is conscious throughout the period
of his meditation. When he meditates down to theta wave, dreamlets and dreams
begin to appear. Even when he goes deeper into delta wave, he is conscious and
aware all the time. That means when his body is asleep, his mind is still
conscious and aware. In contrast to normal sleep, in which the dreamer tries to
become conscious while dreaming. The meditator never loses consciousness
throughout the period of meditation. The dreams come during theta wave, which is
equivalent to R.E.M. sleep. The yogin then can change his lucid dream while
meditating. He can explore anywhere he likes. He can heal patients miles away
with his powerful distant healing. When he wakes up from his meditation, he
remembers every detail of lucid dream in his meditation. That means he can be
conscious in his waking period, in his meditative dreams and remain in the same
consciousness after meditation with full memory of what has transpired. It also
follows that as you progress in your one-pointed meditation, you will also
progress in your lucid dreaming. This is especially so when one can separate a
watcher in our meditation and remain detached to the events occurring in the
dreams. Do not be excited, and do not fear any image that arises in the dreams.
Be fearless and calm. Be detached and equanimous. With repeated successful
experiences, the meditator will grow spiritually rapidly.
What are the advantages of lucid dreaming?
1. Firstly it makes us more aware of our thoughts and emotions. Being more
conscious in dreams means we are more conscious in life. So the first benefit is
the expansion of our consciousness.
2. Secondly, one is more likely to be able to enter a higher spirit realm and
move forward and backward in time.
3. An experienced lucid dreamer is then able to see the multidimensionality of
his consciousness. He is then able to move up to level 4 and then whisk down to
level 2 with expediency. During all this time he is aware of these higher
spiritual realms. This feat alone will enhance his spiritual growth greatly.
4. A healing process may be expedited with or without the help of guides. In
this high spiritual state, any disease can be healed in accordance with his
5. Shared dreams will now be a possibility. ‘Dream date’ may also be pursued
with the connivance of a partner.
6. Lucid dreaming is also most valuable in the instruction of life after death.
Most religions teach that our entire life is to teach us about how to die. The
bardo states in the ‘Tibetan Book of the Dead’ is the book par excellence to
depict life after death through lucid dreams by Tibetan monks. In other words,
lucid dreaming is to relate to us what is life after death. Sleep is a little
death, and lucid dreaming is witnessing life after death.
7. Lastly, with lucid dreaming, the process of out-of-body experience becomes
second nature and one does not have to learn specifically to achieve OBE. An
experienced lucid dreamer may actually see his etheric or astral body (dream
body) moving out of his physical body, and then he is able to see his dream body
move to higher realms. There is no fear involved. It is an instructive viewing.
With all the above benefits, it is still a rare occurrence for someone to
experience a lucid dream, even though he has done it before many times.
If one were to make a study of dreams meticulously and in detail, one can
definitely conclude that we cannot totally control our dreams or radically
change our dreams. However, we can influence our dreams. A great lesson arising
from the study of dreams will tell us that our dreams are messages from our
collective unconsciousness to our waking consciousness. If, therefore one does
not register our recollections of our dreams we are missing important lessons
for our spiritual development. Remember that ‘all dreams come in the service
of health and wholeness’. Our deep unconscious knows that we are going the
wrong path and our habits may shorten our lives. So a series of recurrent dreams
will emerge to remind us of our folly. If we do not recall our dreams to obtain
the message, a nightmare will then arise literally to wake us up. These messages
cry out ‘stop your bad habit’ and ‘what you are doing is very wrong’
etc. And if you are not aware of these warnings from your dreams, then the
harmful or fatal outcome will eventually come to pass. One could really conclude
that dreams and nightmares are guidance, warnings and lessons from our higher
self or guides.
Guidelines for interpreting dreams
1. Description of the dream. Write down as detailed as possible all the elements
of your dream. Particularly note the (a) settings, (b) people and animals, (c)
objects, (d) feelings, (e) actions in the dream and (f) a diagram would help a
2. Recapitulate the whole dream using the dreamer’s own words. Edit a little
to bring out the main theme of the story. The words used may sometimes trigger
the meaning of the image and theme of the description.
3. Bridge the images to specific situations in the dreamer’s own life. Does
the theme remind you of anything or anyone in your life? Does it remind you of
any part of yourself?
4. Test your bridge. In what way does the dream element relate to his waking
life? Is the match strong? If the match is weak, drop the bridge. Look for
5. Summarise the descriptions and bridges at the end of each scene. Add thoughts
to the summary, and it is here that the meaning of the dream may come to light.
6. Reflect. What changes or actions should the dreamer take in view of the
lessons learnt from his or her dreams? Read the dreams of the past week 2 or 3
times so as to consolidate the lessons or insights. Then act on them.
Dream dictionaries on the whole are next to useless. One cannot expect one
interpretation of a theme to fit all individuals. A person’s dream is symbolic
and metaphoric to that person alone. The dream comes in the wake of the person’s
own term of reference, his background, emotional makeup and his existing
circumstances. No two persons have the same set of emotional background and
circumstances at the same time. If one is lazy and does not want to follow the
above 6 guidelines for interpretation, one may buy 6 or more dream dictionaries
and refer to every one of them to find out which dictionary gives the nearest
interpretation to a particular theme. This is a hit-and-run method and could be
Personal Dream: A good example of how symbolic is a person’s dream to the
dreamer himself is exemplified by a dream of my own. In my dream, I am attending
a funfair. The man manning the entrance and selling the entrance tickets was an
anesthetist, a friend of mine. I asked him what was the cost of a ticket. He
answered $2. So I dished out four 50-cent coins to him. This unusual form of
payment went unnoticed by me. A ticket was then issued to me. It had a number
‘389’ on it. On awakening, I tried to conjure up a 4th digit to buy a
4-digit lottery with the numbers 3,8, and 9. My brother and I assembled several
4-digits with the ticket number, ‘389’. We then bought these 4-digits, but
we were totally unsuccessful. In turns out that the 1st prize 4-D ticket number
was ‘5555.’ This is my four 50-cent coins payment towards the $2 ticket into
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